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Need advice? Maybe These Words Can Ease Your Mind

 

Have you ever had someone give you parenting advice? Did you ask for it? Was it practical advice? I don’t know about you, but I used to get it all of the time! Even before I was actually a parent! AGH!   It is so frustrating when people come up to you with unrealistic expectations and advice. Not one single parent is perfect. At all. Period. There have only been a handful of tips and tricks of the parenting trade that I’ve actually found useful…and let me tell you…I’ve had a lot!

 

I do want to share some things that I have discovered through trial, error and even heart break.

 

 

  • It is ok to be mad! This one is key. You are not a bad parent for getting upset, angry or mad. YOU ARE NORMAL! Frustration IS a part of raising any child especially if you have more than one. It’s ok! Peaceful parenting is magnificent, but even the most patient, peaceful parents get beyond their rope and become upset. Being mad at your child is perfectly normal. I don’t know a single person who hasn’t been mad or at the end of their patience at least a handful of times…and I know a lot of parents that practice peaceful parenting. Seriously, this is a normal happenstance. I promise.
  • Yelling Happens. Yelling is a fact of life. Whether it’s at home, a sporting event, screaming with music in the car…it doesn’t matter. I’ve been guilty of yelling at my boys. No shame here. I try not to, but it happens. The 6th time I tell my kiddo to not do something or to do something and he doesn’t, watch out. A loud, dominant voice appears. I don’t like being the loud, overbearing parent; sometimes it will happen whether you want it to or not. You’re human. Side note here though, I recommend that when you yell (and it’s bound to happen at some point in your parenting life, read number one), talk to your kids about it after. Explain why you raised your voice. Explain your feelings of frustration and why it got to that point. They may not understand right away, but I’ve found it really helps.
  • Let kids be kids. Do you remember being smaller? Do you remember being messy and devious? Well, I do. Most of us will, but sometimes it’s really hard to remember imagination, constant need to play, hating naps (why did I ever hate naps?????), being a picky eater, and crying over everything. We are adults now; we aren’t able to be like that too often anymore. Kids being kids leads to numbers one and two. I struggle with patience…most of us do. But please remember kids are just that; small, curious, sometimes crazy and 100% full of energy. Being mad and raising your voice are a part of life and honestly are expected from time-to-time. Just keep in mind that they small children still need to be small children. After all, they are only small once.
  • Take breaks, they are necessary. I have experienced a lot. Granted, I only have two children right now, BUT I have also watched my nieces and nephews all at the same time…it’s a lot. Even with just one child it can be a lot. Don’t feel bad if you’re losing patience and need a break. This is perfectly acceptable and very much recommended. No one is super mom or super dad all of the time. Breaks revitalize our sanity. WE NEED THAT. All of us. Even if it’s only a 10 minute quiet time. If you have an infant, it’s ok to let them cry for a few minutes in a safe place like their crib. Give your toddler his favorite toy and sit on the couch in peace for a few minutes. Get your break in! You will feel better!
  • Don’t be bossed around. I laughed writing that, but it’s true. Do not allow your children or other parents to boss you around. You are the parent of your child and he/she needs to understand this. It can be hard. It can be grueling. It can be the hardest thing you do because putting your kid in timeout when then do something wrong generally puts you in timeout too. I mean, you have to watch them to make sure they are in timeout the whole time. You’re literally punishing yourself, but don’t give in! Be strong! Now when it comes to other parents bullying you…I want to share a story. When Noah was 3 he had back-to-back strep infections, tonsillitis, strep again, it went on for a whole year. He was sick for whole year because of his tonsils. Antibiotics and doctor visits weekly. It was awful. I wanted him to be evaluated for a tonsil and adenoidectomy; so many parents wanted to tell me how wrong I was to do so. Even my own parents!!! I didn’t let them sway me. At all. I still took him to the ENT specialist regardless of all the advice I was receiving against it. And guess what? The ENT doctor recommended surgery. Noah had his tonsils out in October of 2012. He did great!!! I can honestly say with full sincerity that he has not had issues with his throat or chronic sickness since then. It’s the end of May of 2017. We are going on 5 years of hardly any sickness of any kind since the surgery. The moral here is that you know what’s best. You know your child and your expectations. You know your ethics and boundaries. You know best. You. Not them.
  • Love your children. This may seem obvious, but it is the most important. Love them when you’re mad, when you’re happy, and even when you’re so far gone that you just want to cry. Love them. They will feel it and they love you too. You are your child’s best and most favorite thing; her favorite toy, her favorite person, her favorite cuddle bear. You’re everything to your children…so just love them. Through everything that happens, good and bad, love them. Hug them, kiss them, tickle them, watch their magic tricks and talk to their imaginary friend every once in a while. Just love them.

 

I want to let you in on a secret I have discovered. Whether you’re a new parent or a parent of a grown adult, I promise this to be true: A mother makes a child, but a child also makes a mother. Parents grow with their children. When a baby is born so is a mother or a father. Babies need you to feed them, hold them, change them and talk/sing to them. That seems fairly simple at first. As they grow, they need more. As they grow, so do you. No one knows everything right from the start or even at the end for that matter. Babies are new; they are not seasoned children who have figured out your buttons. Just like you won’t be a seasoned parent with all the tricks yet. You grow together and tackle obstacles of life together. It’s wonderful and alarming at the same time, but it is beautiful and lovely too. Even in the angry moments. You grow together, you learn together, you love together.

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Honey Bear Bottle Campaign

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Do you have spare change laying around? Do you have a work organization that you can do fundraiser type donation collections to? Do you have both? Awesome! There is a way that you can help pregnant women, newborns and entire families by donating some spare change and/or having a penny war at work!
The Hannah Center is currently holding a fundraiser event called Honey Bear Bottle Campaign. The link with official information is here http://www.hannahcenter.org/change-bear-campaign/ but I think it will be fun to talk a little bit about a work related penny war! Not to mention, this is a wonderful way to serve our Lord by serving others and tossing in just a little bit of competition with co-workers.
 
My oldest son, Noah, told me about these penny wars that they do in school, and I thought it was a great idea that could possibly go well with this campaign. 
 
Ok, the way a penny war works is by dividing into teams. Most likely your organization will have teams already, whether it be HR, day shift, night shift, accounting, etc. and each team gets a jar or two. Your team earns points by the amount of silver coins in the jar (nickels, dimes, and quarters) BUT your team loses points for any penny dropped in. For example, I toss in two quarters in my own jar and a coworker tosses in 100 pennies. I am now -50 points. I gained 50 from the quarters, but then I lost 100 points from the pennies. The winner is the team with the most points at the end of your fundraiser period. The prize can be anything your office agrees on and the time frame can be two weeks, one week, 3 days…however long you feel would still be fun for everyone. This is just an idea if you want a way to get it in your work place and have a little fun with it. At the end of your penny war, bring the jars back to the Hannah Center!
 
It’s a wonderful ministry for the Hannah Center and you are able to be a BIG part of that!
 
Are you only able to add in your spare change? That works just as well as the penny wars! Any donation is welcome and it is like 2 Corinthians 9:7 says, “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” Of course we aren’t tithing to a church with this fundraiser, but we are giving to the Lord’s children who are in need of a little assistance.
 

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What’s New!

 

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What’s new at the Hannah Center? Blogging. What else is new? I guess you’ll have to keep checking into the blog to find out. The goal is to post fun, new information and maybe even sometimes trivia to the blog. Our first entry is going to be a small bio about myself, Katelynn Owens.

Let me get started with what I like to call “myself in a nutshell”….I’m a Christian, mother of two, wife to an amazing man and have committed some time to the military. That’s my nutshell; a little deeper in almost like an onion…I attend Ellettsville Christian Church where I am a member and help with the Women’s Ministry. I have two boys, one is almost 8 and the other is just over a year; their names are Noah and Ezekiel, respectively. My husband, Logan, is a Sheriff’s Deputy for Monroe County and has been since July 13th, 2015. He is also a member at Ellettsville Christian Church. I have been in the Indiana National Guard since September 17th 2007. I am part of a program called Active Guard Reserve where being in the National Guard is my everyday job and not just one weekend a month. I work out of Indianapolis and make the drive every day. Which brings me to why I want to do the blog.

My time is limited with a full time job, a long drive and finding a good balance with my family time. I can help with the blog while still being at home or in the office during my lunch. Since writing is a task that I can do remotely and update online, it was a perfect fit for me. The Hannah Center is an organization that I want to donate my time and my efforts to. It’s an organization that I can really put myself behind with it being such a great Christian role in ministry as well as the ideas behind helping mothers, newborns, and families in general. It touches my heart to know that maybe one day, I also can make a difference for the better in the life of another family.

I was a single mother with my oldest, Noah. My family wasn’t happy with my decisions, but my 18 year old self did not have all of the answers nor all of the questions. I found myself alone, scared, and still finishing high school. At the time, doing everything by myself was all I knew; it was difficult to say the very least. From going to appointments to studying for my AP chemistry test, I was completely alone. I accepted that. Life went on, and I gave birth to an amazing little boy! Not until 6 years later when I was married (to that amazing guy I was talking about earlier) did I fully realize how different a pregnancy was with even just a little support. Doctor appointments were easier with someone to share my thoughts and feelings with. Daily activities like showering or brushing my teeth didn’t come as such a struggle this time around, because I knew I had someone with me who supported me.

Even though the Hannah Center may not be giving out husbands, they are giving the best part of that relationship; caring, support and the self confidence that every woman deserves while going through a pregnancy. I want to be a part of that. I want to help show women from all walks of life that there are people behind them, people who care and people who want to help. Even if it’s just to read words that you’re not alone. You’re not alone in making decisions. You’re not alone in finding answers. You have the Hannah Center and the wonderful people there who make it come to life.

Hopefully this first blog post sheds some light on me and why I’m wanting to blog for the

Hannah Center


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